Wednesday, October 12, 2016

Micro-Blog: Thoughts on Love & Time

I would describe my loving style as fast and hard. No, you dirty perv, I'm not talking about sex. I'm referring to the way I love. When I am in the early phases of someone I day dream and wind up falling in love with them much faster than I should. As things start to develop and I get to know the person better, I fall hard. Then when it's over... when it's over, I'm more broken than I should be.

It doesn't take much for me to start falling in love. A mutual attraction, similar interests, and a couple of dates. Time. That's all, really. Give me your time, give me your late nights and early mornings and I'll be wrapped around your finger. I'm not one of these girls who require mountains of gifts or for you to give up every spare second of your day. I just want to know when you are thinking about me and I want to know that I am important enough that you will set aside time for just me.

Society says this is something I should fight, for some reason this is bad. Falling in love so quickly, that is. It leads to heartbreak. But you have a limitless amount of love to give. It's endless. It only has barriers where you put them. Unlike time, which is dictated by work, school, and other obligations. I fall hard and fast, but my time is precious, so please don't waste it.

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  1. It's nice to know that someone is thinking about you - even when they are not with you. Time is never too much to ask.

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    1. My boyfriend had one night in town this week (he's usually gone for months) and instead of catching up on sleep, he chose to spend time with me. I cannot tell you how happy it made me that he thought of me!

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  2. I just happened to listen to Eisenstein general relativity theory as I was reading this post. According to him space and time are one thing. I agree with you on not to waste time. Embrace love the time spent with your love ones.

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    1. Do you have a link to this? I'd love to listen to it.

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  3. Yup, I've always had a habit of falling hard too. I have gotten my heart broken before. But luckily when I fell in love my husband it worked out.

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    1. That's great! I love it when things work out.

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  4. I feel this way as well. As long as there's a mutual feeling/we like the same stuff it's pretty much enough for me

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    1. A lot of people just don't seem to get that lol

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  5. You are right," Time is gold" and you cannot afford to waste it. But before you fall in love, you still have to be considerate with your feelings, make sure that he is the right person for you. You should already know who could be that right one.

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    1. I've learned that even if you are totally sure that person is right for you, it can still be a bust. I dated this guy for 6 months before I admitted I had feelings for him. We were planning our future together. Then one day he left me with 'I could never love you because you love another.' He knew I was poly when we started talking. This crushed me.

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  6. Wow, you remind me so much of a friend of mine. She falls in love instantly - its like add water - stir -love. When it is over she is so broken hearted. I want to say don't fall in love so fast, but let's face it, who needs to hear that?

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    1. Also, I wish it were that easy to control. Lol. I've tried to keep my feelings in check. It doesn't work for me.

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  7. Time makes all the difference. For me, it doesn't matter so much where we are or what we are doing. The important piece is being together and spending time with one another.

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    1. Yup. Put the phone down, look at me, and engage conversation. Lol.

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  8. time makes a big difference when falling in love. i guess there people that is quick and some are just slow or just dont want to feel it for some other past reasons or trauma.

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    1. Even after you are already in love, time makes a big difference. Putting time into a relationship will determine if the relationship survives or not.

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  9. I think what you're describing here is infatuation and lust. I think real love takes a lot longer to fully develop. Those early day daydreams and flushes... that's always fleeting. Real love lasts.

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    1. Do you forever love that dog at the shelter that you walked? How about that beautiful house you saw on the side of the road on vacation in Florida? Love is an emotion, like joy. Saying that real love lasts is like putting limits on joy. You can't be happy over something that happened yesterday, find something new to be happy over. Or why are you not still celebrating that surprise party I threw you last month, didn't you enjoy it? I don't constrain love to a time limit.

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  10. You're right... if this is the way you do it it's completely fine! You can get heart broken while falling in love slowly as well :)

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    1. Yup. :) Heartbreak happens to just be a side effect of falling in love. Some love never experiences it, but even with my husband (who I have been with for 7 years) we have experienced heart break. But we learned from it, grew from it, and moved on.

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  11. nothing better than have someone to count on, to get home and be sure that person will be there waiting for you! "MaryAnne"

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    1. Yup. Or knowing you're on someone's mind.

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  12. I can totally understand that speed with which that happens, I went through a long spell of it! You do what's right for you, who cares about society?!

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    1. That's my thing. Society sucks. Lol.

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  13. Happened to me once and learned my lesson. I fell fast and hard for one person before and it ended up in a major heartbreak. I guess I learned to leave a part of myself for myself. Never again! I am blessed to have a very good man in my life now.

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    1. I'm still learning and discovering myself.

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  14. I think I'm the same, and I fall out of love just as fast. As soon as I've decided a relationship isn't right, nothing will change my mind

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    1. That's how I am. But I try everything I can to keep it healthy if I think it's right. That's why my husband and I have gone through so much crap and still going strong and happy and healthy.

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  15. I completely agree with that! Life is short, and I say go with what you're feeling!

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    1. That's a great way to approach things.

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  16. I fell in love hard and fast a lot when I was younger... was not actually LOVE, I know that now. It just felt like it. I think it is important to love and know yourself, before anyone else can know and love you.

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    1. It may just be because I am young, but I don't feel the same way. Yes it is important to know and love yourself but we go through life looking for moments that make us happy, nurturing ourselves in moments that make us sad, coaching ourselves in moments of anger, and... hiding from love? I don't want to live like that. Love is limitless, I like the way it feels, and I want to indulge in it.

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  17. I felt like I could have written this post because I am the same. I fall hard and fast and though not needy I want to know I am thought of and worthy of your time

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    1. I read a lady's blog post recently that said being needy wasn't really a bad thing. It made a lot of sense. We are only human and having needs is expected. :)

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  18. Beautiful post. I fell in love with my husband in hard, it was something my parents couldn't understand. I was a teenager when we met. I like to think I was lucky and my husband felt the same way as me. xx

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    1. I was also a teen when my husband and I met. I remember the first time he said I love you. I felt like I was floating and flying and falling all at the same time.

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  19. I think Falling in love so quickly is not my cup of tea, as I am pretty lazy on that part! I do agree that a mutual attraction, similar interests, couple of dates and proper understanding could lead to what you want finally!

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    1. I'm lazy too. But my dates start with a mutual attraction and then the dates are built on the other things I mentioned. So falling is pretty quick for me.

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  20. That's exactly how I am. Once I connect with someone, I give my all regardless of the time.

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