Saturday, November 26, 2016

How Personal Lubricant Can Benefit Your Sex Life

Before I started using sexual lubricant I thought that people only used it when they couldn’t naturally get ‘wet.’ I mean, in erotica and porn women naturally, are dripping with vaginal fluids when they are turned on. This is a common misconception that many people believe. I don’t remember why I first tried lube, but I am glad that I did and I haven’t looked back! Sexual lubrication makes sex wetter, makes the friction less irritating, and can enhance pleasure by bringing more attention to where you apply it. It can be used with a partner or solo and is a must for any toy box. Hell! Even if you don’t use toys, I still recommend using lube. Before you hop over to a sex shop though there are some things that you might want to know, first. There are some ingredients to be aware of, some facts to know, and some options to consider.

There are five ingredients (that I am aware of) that you should look out for. When purchasing lube, you should always check the ingredients to ensure that it doesn’t contain anything you are allergic to or any of the following ingredients. Petroleum or petroleum-based ingredients are difficult to clean off and can coat the skin and trap bacteria causing infections. Also, it shouldn’t be used with condoms as it breaks down the material and can cause them to break. Parabens are another ingredient to be wary of. They mimic estrogen and put women at a higher risk for breast and ovarian cancer. Parabens can also be detected in urine, breast milk, and blood, which means if you’re breastfeeding or donating blood, it can be passed from you to the baby or blood receiver.

Phenoxyethanol is another common ingredient used in sexual lubricants and can cause skin irritation, but that’s the least of your worries with Phenoxyethanol. This ingredient is linked with causing suppressed immunities and can cause damage to the reproductive system. Propylene glycol is used by doctors to quickly get medicine and such into your blood stream because it absorbs so easily. But this agent doesn’t discriminate against what it takes into your blood stream with it, causing it to increase the chances of transferring STIs and STDs. Finally, I’m sure you’ve heard to be wary of Glycerin. This is because it is sugar and can increase your chances of getting a yeast infection. 

Now that you know what to look out for, you should probably decide what types of lube you want to purchase. There are many different types, but I’m only going to talk about the main ones. The main types of lube that you are going to come across are water, silicone, hybrid, flavored, enhancements (hot, cool, tingling, etc), oil, and organic. And that’s just what I call the ‘basics.’ Now I can imagine you sitting there reading this, thinking “that’s a lot of options.” But they each have their pro’s and con’s, and you should really consider these before just deciding on one.


Water-based lubes are the most common and popular choice. They are abundant and easy to find, from Walmart to the gas station, no need to visit a sex shop to purchase this basic necessity. The main ingredient in this type is, you guessed it, water. This makes it easy to clean off, it doesn’t stain materials, it plays nicely with condoms and those with sensitive skin. You can’t use it for water play, though, which is a big downfall for me because I love shower sex. And it has to be reapplied often because it evaporates fairly quickly.


Silicone based lubes would probably be the second most popular, and can be found relatively easy, but it isn’t as common as water based in general public stores. I use silicone lube a lot for shower play because it doesn’t wash away in water and you have to use soap to get it all off. While this is a great thing for people who like to play in the shower it can stain sheets and clothes and after sex, you should hop in the shower or wash it off with a wipe. Silicone lube doesn’t evaporate as quickly as water-based lube and therefore doesn’t have to be reapplied as often.


This is my favorite type of lube. It isn’t as tacky as silicone lube but doesn’t evaporate as quickly as water-based lubricants. I’m talking about the silicone, water hybrid lube. This has all the best qualities of both lubricants. It doesn’t stain cloth as easy, it washes off fairly easy, it doesn’t have to be reapplied often, and it is easy on sensitive skin. My only complaint is that it can be rather thin like water based lubes. I prefer the thickness of silicone lubes.


This option is great for people who find they are sensitive to the other types I have listed. It lasts a while like silicone lubes, but it can’t be used with condoms and can increase your risk of infections. Oil based lubricants don’t wash off easily, especially in the rectum, and can trap bacteria and STI/STDs, making you more at risk to catch an infection.


These make for great blowjobs if you can find one that tastes good. I have tried at least 5 different brands and none of them were taste bud friendly. Usually, flavored lubes are thick and tacky, they have a resemblance of the flavor that they are supposed to taste like, and are usually full of sugars. If you happen to come across a flavored lube that tastes good, they make for great foreplay (licking it off each other’s bodies) and makes blowjobs taste better. But they shouldn’t be used internally as 90% of the time they have sugar in them, which can cause an infection.

Enhancements (Hot, Cool, Tingling, etc)

I’m grouping these into ‘enhancements’ because they are supposed to enhance sex. From my personal experience, I am too sensitive to enjoy these and they either freeze or burn my vagina and vulva. I’ve read experiences of others who they don’t effect at all! I would suggest doing further research and reading a couple of reviews on the brand and type you are interested in before making a purchase.


Organic lubes are a fantastic option for people who are conscious about their carbon footprint and are sensitive to synthetic materials. Organic lubes moisturize, but usually evaporate quickly and need to be reapplied often. Unfortunately, since organic lubes have a great moisturizing feature, they can be sold under the radar of the FDA as just ‘moisturizers’ and can have ingredients in them that should not be used in any orifices.

You can use lube to enhance solo sessions, hand jobs, make sex with a condom feel better, and make bare backing feel a hell of a lot better. If you are inserting something into an orifice you should start by squeezing some lube into your hand and working it over the object that is going into an orifice. If you are using it with a condom, be sure that it is a type that can be used without risking breakage, and you can put a small dollop on the inside of the condom to help enhance the feeling for the wearer as well. If you are not using a condom, (which should only be done with trusted partners), I usually start with a hand job with a healthy dose of lube and allow Poly Hubby to play with me using some lube. When we are both good and slippery we let the fun begin.

How ever you choose to use lube, it has the potential to enhance your sex life. Since you’ve taken the time to read up on why and how to use it, I suggest giving it a shot. Like I said before, I don’t remember why I tried it, but I’m glad I did, and I haven’t went back since. A final note, I'm sure you've heard not to use silicone lube with silicone toys. This is false information. The only toys that silicone lube has an effect on are jelly and silicone rubber, as these are not pure silicone. And that's all! That's all the information I have for you on lube today. Do you know something that I don't? What is your favorite type of lube? Do you have a favorite brand?


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