Monday, May 8, 2017

How a First Date Is Like a Job Interview

I wrote this as a school paper, and during my research was encouraged to post it. I was a little skeptical about posting it, but figured what the hell! It isn't great and isn't my best writing, but I made a high grade on it and think you guys might find it a little humorous. 
While one cannot ask the common interview question of “What are the opportunities for advancement?” on a first date, it is a question they should consider before jumping into a new relationship. This subject is just one of the many similarities between a job interview and a first date. When going to either type of event, one is going to decide on their future, going to ask many questions, and probably do a bit of research on the person they are going out with or company they are going to interview with before the occasion. 
Whether someone is going on a first date or a job interview, the outcome will determine their future. While one affects a financial future and the other affects the social future, both events should be taken seriously. A job interview will determine employment, financial income, and schedule. A first date determines the future of one’s social calendar, romantic interests, and if they are going to continue to hang out with the person that they are with on that date. Both situations can be stressful if one focuses too much on how it will affect their future, but they should remember that it will change it. They should also consider how it will change it. If someone were to take a third shift job, this can change what time they run errands. Likewise, if someone were to date someone else who has a severe cat allergy, they would not be able to get a cat. 
Houghton (2003) says, “Where do you see yourself in five years' time? This is a gruesome question, but people still ask it. There is no right answer here you just need to know what you are going to say.” While one will not be asked this on a first date, and it should not be that important that they immediately know if they are going to be with this person five years from now, one does want to ask their self if they can see their self hanging out with the date again. Unlike where at a job interview you would answer that you want to see yourself growing with the company, this is not an answer you could give on a first date.
Another similarity between a job interview and a first date is that there are going to many questions asked. Questions at a job interview will include things like “what is your biggest weakness,” and “why do you want this position.” How one answers the questions asked in either situation can determine the outcome of the event. “Some questions are one-size-fits-all. Others are tailored for certain people.” (Sherman, 2004) This quote applies to both situations. On a date, one can ask anyone “what is your favorite color,” but if they are on a date with someone who hates dogs, they would not ask “what is your favorite dog breed.” Picking what questions to ask on either a first date or a job interview can reveal what interests you and what your intentions are. 
Whether one is on a date or going to a job interview, they should be prepared to answer and ask many questions. Having a list of questions prepared for a job interview looks professional and shows that one has interest, but showing up to a date with a list of inquiries can come off as creepy or controlling. Knowing how to approach the game of Q&A in either situation will help one to have a favorable outcome. What questions should one ask, though? How does one know what questions would impress the date or interviewer? The final way that first dates and job interviews are similar is that one should do research before going to either. Houghton (2003) says, 
It sounds pretty basic, but it is surprising how willing people are to go for jobs they know little or nothing about. Knowing something about the job you are applying for will not only help you to decide if you want it but will give you confidence for the interview.
For a job interview, one would research the company, the CEO, and other things that directly affect the position they are applying for. Doing this sort of research before a date could prove awkward and come across as stalker-like. Checking someone’s social media to make sure they are not cheating or asking a mutual friend if they are a good person is a good way of doing light research on a date, but never do the same amount of research on a date that you would on an interview. 
It is beneficial to do research before either occasion. By doing research you can determine if you and the person you are going on a date with share similar interests. While you can’t go to someone’s official website, like you can for an interview with a company, you can ask mutual friends or the person their self. Talking to your date before the date is now a common occurrence and it is a great opportunity to get to know a little about them. Casually texting the interviewer before an interview, on the other hand, is a bad idea.
A job interview and a date have many similarities that one may not consider at first. During both a first date and a job interview one will complete many tasks. The participants in both events are aware that the outcome can decide their future, will ask and answer a lot of questions and do research on the person or company they are attending the occasion with.  Before jumping into either situation, one will want to consider the outcome they want, what questions they want to ask, and just how much research they want to do.  
Houghton, A. (2003). Getting that job: Preparing for interview. Student BMJ, 11
Sherman, M. (2004, 01). QUESTIONS R US: What to ask at a job interview. Career World, 32, 20-21. Retrieved from
Smith, L. S. (2010). Are you ready for your job interview? Nursing, 40(4), 52-54.      doi:10.1097/01.NURSE.0000369868.98304.4f

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